Guy Personal Blog #5

What is Up, Guys

Today I took some more time to deliberate over what I wanted this blog to be about. That doesn't mean I won't hit the quick tangent though before I focus in.

I refilled my Modafinil script and Wow... is that Stuff the Best. I am pretty Chronically Fatigued (not any Major Health concern I've gotten 500,000,000 tests I'm as strong as an Ox), and Modafinil pretty much completely solves the problem.

That being said, most medication should be used as a means to an end. Ultimately I want to live a Tom Brady lifestyle and have my endocrine system and other bodily functions operating at peak performance without CVS being a factor.

THAT being said, Moda is fire for the time being and really helps with the grind a lot.

OK time to lock onto the subject at hand tho: relationships and Acceptance

I have touched on relationship stuff in past Musings, but as they're an ever-present feature of Human Living- I often Update my Relationship Drivers.

Something I've been speccing a lot of Social Skill Points into lately is how quickly and effectively I can wholly accept someone for who they are and where they're at. This doesn't even mean I have to like them or want a deep relationship with them; it is just Good Practice to be Immersed in the Truth versus Ideals.

Like, for example, say you know someone struggling with addiction. You can tell yourself all day that "if they just stopped, they would right all their wrongs and become the best version of themselves"... as if you have Precognitive superpowers and can accurately visualize what exists down a particular path of choices. The reality is, they are addicted to drugs and you have no control over that. The best you can do is cheer them on if they do start to better themselves.

Another example... Say there's someone you really care about and Treats you Nicely... but they are Dealing with Internal Struggles that make it hard for them to Put the amount of energy into the Relationship that you would consider A+. This is a situation I've struggled to navigate many X's throughout my Time here on Earth.

Previously, I would take things to heart and consider that it was either My Fault or that the Other Guy just didn't care about me and was a Dick. Sometimes either one of those can be true, but it's not your responsibility to make sure people are Communicating Clearly - so Let's say go ahead and give things the Benefit of a Doubt. 

Nowadays, I take a second to think about what they have Communicated Clearly, and take it at Face Value. I now know how much Space to give, and when to Hold my own. I find myself considerably less worried about 1-Way relationships as a result. As soon as I feel like it's one sided, I just take a step back instead of Trying to trying to get them to Step Forward. Makes the vibes Mutual again.... Fire..

Point being, You can't Change People. You can asses your boundaries and what you want in a relationship, compare them to Reality, and adapt accordingly.

Accepting other people without compromise isn't always easy - but with Practice you can start to appreciate People for exactly where they're at on their Path and not take things so Personally. You'll have a deeper understanding of both your own and the other Person's place in the relationship; and that Lack of Ambiguity makes Everything much Smoother.

I do want to note that when I say "accept" I'm not talking exclusively about their flaws or things that make the relationship more difficult. I'm simply saying try taking a holistic approach and viewing Every Single Part of Somebody through the Lens of Love before choosing how to Exist within the Connection.

In a nutshell, don't worry about Who someone Used to be or Who they Could be. Love them for who they Are, from Close Proximity or A Healthy Distance.

Hope this was insightful ... Love U Guys

Guy Person

P.S. - this All goes specifically For non-toxic People. If any amount of someone's behavior is Obviously Malignant, just Pray for Them and consider it Clipped.